Maybe it's just me...

In my experience I have met many types of girls who utilize the sexual aspect of nature to make a quick buck, a living or even a full on career.

Escorts

Street Walkers

Exotic Dancers

Peep Show Girls

Phone Sex Operators

Web Cam Ladies

Pro Dominatrices

Pro Submissives

No matter what your thing is: Sex worker, Fetishist, Sexual Deviant, Submissive, Dominant… There is always something similar that “your kind” dislikes.

The Peep show girls look down at Exotic Dancers

The Escorts look down at the Street Walkers

The Phone Sex Operators Snub the Cam Girls 

And the Lifestyle Dommes look down on Pro’s

In some ways a part of me can understand each point of view and can understand why one profession wouldn’t like to be associated with another. In other ways there is a little voice in me that says “Shut the FUCK up whores, we are all in this together!”

Allow me to elaborate.

A Sex worker is a person who participates in sexually themed activities for the exchange of money. This title is commonly confused for strictly prostitutes, but all erotic professions are considered sex work. In sex worker land there is a lot of stigmas and fucked up politics. This includes sex worker vs sex worker discrimination. An act that needs to stop.

Today we are going to focus on the battles within domination… The Pro Vs Lifestyle showdown.

In the complex world of domination, just like any other complex world… there are class systems, politics and war.War, is what I am going to particularly focus on today. The oh so stupid world of Domina On Domina argumentative bullshit.

A Pro Domme, Professional Dominant Or Pro Dominatrix: Is a woman (or male, hmm) who participates in Fetish, Role-play, and BDSM activities in exchange for money. Her many slaves, fans and admirers are are ready and willing to serve through paid sessions, which are typically an hour in length. There is also the matter of “commercial dungeons” which are play spaces with various dungeon themed rooms and Mistresses that are employed there, or rent the rooms for a fee.

House Pro Dommes: Are mistresses that work for a dungeon and do not advertise independently. The dungeon books their appointments for them and advertises their specialties. Although you can be into the lifestyle and still work at a commercial play space, that is more rare nowadays than it used to be.

Independent Dommes: Advertise, promote and work for themselves. They may have affiliations with dungeons and play spaces, and are more prone to be into the lifestyle than house Pro Dommes.

Domme/Sub Sex and oral servitude is frowned upon and is not a normal protocol in a Pro Domme session.

A Lifestyle Mistress: Is a woman who lives the BDSM lifestyle 24/7. Their slaves are usually live-in and show 24 hr dedication to their mistress withing the home, at the grocery store, fetish parties, dungeon atmospheres… you name it. The BDSM activities between a lifestyle mistress and her slave can range from harmless bondage, spankings, submission and house-slave work to various forms of sexual encounters. With Oral Servitude being the most common practice, showing an ultimate dedication.

Lifestyle Dommes usually attend events, munches and kinky meetings, more so than a Pro Domme typically would.

Leather families: Lifestyle dominants usually belong to leather families. These are basically households or groups of kinksters who form a sort of brotherhood or loving familyesque community . Each leather family has its own hierarchy systems, emblems, customs and rules. 

So what’s the war?

Its stupid really.

Lifestyle Mistresses look down on Pro Dommes because they feel as if ALL Professional Dominatrices are in BDSM for, is a potential for income. They feel as if their world shouldn’t be tainted by fake domina’s trying to make a quick buck. Butchering a culture they have worked so long to build. This in a way is true, the money is an incentive but a Dominatrix can not be a great dominatrix (Pro or Lifestyle) unless they have a true interest in the craft of domination. This world is not for everyone & if you can tough it out in BDSM no matter what your title, you should be entitled to be respected as a true kinkster.

Pro Domina’s look nastily at lifestyle Mistresses because they think that sharing your talents in BDSM for free is unnecessary and with BDSM being a decently paid industry, they figure “why not make money doing what you love?” It seems stupid to most Pro Dommes that lifestyles would do for free what they charge for… and BDSM services are not cheap.

I think it is all ridiculous and that the war between the perverted need to be stopped.

Can’t we all just get along?

Maybe its just Me,

Asia M.